Relationships With Loved Ones
Probably rare to find a family in which there is no conflict family psychology often hear complaints about each other that the partner does not understand, can not hear. Collisions occur again and again in the same place although it seemed that this problem is solved. Why is this misunderstanding? According to many psychologists, family, the basis of most conflicts with loved ones – a rigid system of rules of life, attitudes, and stereotypes of people. A person in such a system does not understand that a loved one it may be different, that for him my values are not so obvious as to me. For example, a woman is important to realize themselves, to make career, and it is from morning to night working, and her husband, coming from work, dreaming enjoy a delicious dinner with his wife, but it turns out that it still is not home, not to mention dinner. Here is the basis for a permanent misunderstanding. More One important obstacle to harmonious relations with loved ones – is the need to control the individual family member and family life in general, and the actions of all its other members. This "controller" – the source of many problems in the family.
After all, the rest think they do not trust, and this produces a minimum of discontent or protest control. The job of family relationships is as follows: at first it is important to determine that disrupted the family system, where the very point, after which the interaction of family members is on the way to the conflict. Next issue voiced by family members and nchinaetsya second most difficult step of: psychologist "Trains" the family, how can they communicate differently, how to break the stereotype is no longer working and collaboration select one that suits all members. If we talk about training for relations with relatives, advantage of this form of work is the opportunity to touch many family stories in a short time, to see how their limitations and the limitations of their loved ones, and most importantly – try to build relationship differently. And the last. If you do not like your family relationships, do not expect a miracle, make the relationship different. It is in your power, most importantly – want to change them.
